Friday, November 12, 2010

RSVP’s…

It’s amazing that when seemingly well-educated people don’t understand why they should RSVP when the invitation clearly requests it.

Knowing the total number of expected guests is critical at weddings and other large events because of the costs and deadlines involved in meal planning and preparation. But even for smaller social events, I lament the fact that people either don’tColumbine - Letterpress Wedding Invitation - grass green/cocoa on pearl know what RSVP means or worse, choose to ignore it.

When working with brides, coordinators and planners are expected to know the social “rules” and to help their clients incorporate them into the celebration planning. Here are a few criteria to keep in mind and share with clients.

  1. As Emily Post says, “No one is obligated to accept an invitation or to explain their reasons for not accepting. However, when someone is kind enough to extend an invitation, one should be just as kind and reply to the invitation.” Unfortunately, this is not always done.
  1. Ask for help. If you have invited someone to your wedding and have included a reply card with a return by requested date and you still haven’t heard back, the best solution is to press bridesmaids or family relatives into helping you contact all those persons who have yet to reply. If a phone call is in order,helpers can say something like this: “Hi _______, this is _________. I’m calling to make sure that you have received the invitation to __________’s wedding. The bride hasn’t heard from you yet and needs to know if you plan to attend. The count needs to be in by ________. Everyone is looking forward to seeing you.” If you are leaving a voice mail message, add “ Please call me back at ________”.

3. Respond in the same manner that the invitation was issued.

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  1. Reply as soon as possible. Don’t put the invitation in the “to do” pile unless you need to ask the availability of the other person whose name may be on the invitation with yours.
  1. Keep replies brief. You don’t need to go into great detail about why you can’t attend.
  1. If a reply is not requested, it is not necessary to respond. However, it is nice to acknowledge the invitation and let the host know when you cannot attend.

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